Couples/ Low sex drive: factors and remedies

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Extract from the article: Some couples, over time, begin to develop problems and insecurities in their private lives. Most people associate libido with a spontaneous sensation. It arises suddenly and leads couples into relationships characterized by passion. For this reason,

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Some couples, over time, begin to develop problems and insecurities in their private lives. Most people associate libido with a spontaneous sensation. It arises suddenly and leads couples into relationships characterized by passion.  For this reason, it's important to learn to distinguish when desire is absent or whether there are factors that influence its reduction. A healthy sex life is synonymous with well-being. That's why we need to recognize the factors that reduce sexual desire.

Couples may experience a drop in libido at certain times in their lives, particularly in times of stress or emotional shock, such as a death or the loss of a job. Here's what can cause a drop in sexual desire, and what you can do about it.

Stress

Stress is one of the problems that affects most, but to which most people don't pay enough attention. High levels of stress lead to an increase in cortisol production and a decrease in testosterone. As a result, the desire to have sex can diminish. This leads to a feeling of tiredness and a desire to sleep, which often affects sexual relations.

Excessive medication

When undergoing powerful medical treatment, unpleasant side effects are common. Some of the most common are fatigue and nausea. These discomforts can lead to reduced libido. They also tend to trigger self-esteem concerns, due to physical changes and hormonal imbalances.

Trauma

Living through unpleasant experiences is also a fairly common factor that reduces sexual desire. This usually occurs when you're not entirely comfortable with your husband or wife. But also when certain actions seem unsatisfactory. Similarly, having had a bad experience in private life can also create blockages. A bad experience doesn't have to turn into a permanent problem.

Problems of self-esteem and security

Mental health is also a fundamental pillar of every human being. It influences the way we relate to others or our self-worth. If a person has self-esteem and security problems, they may feel that their sexual desire diminishes. This means that someone with low self-esteem will feel unable to satisfy their partner or even enjoy the experience to the full.

Excess alcohol and drugs

Leading a life of excess and substance abuse, such as alcohol and drugs, also influences the reduction of sexual desire. Although, in principle, these substances can stimulate the desire to have sex, in moderate quantities they cause fatigue and even erectile dysfunction. Santiago Frago, Medical Director of the Amaltea Institute of Sexology and Psychotherapy (Spain), comments that it's a myth that alcohol is an aphrodisiac. The reality is that erotic desire does not equate to orgasm, and the latter is disturbed by the toxic substance.

Lack of sleep

The consequences of not getting a good night's sleep are fatal for the body. When a person sleeps little, he or she shows symptoms such as fatigue, anxiety or stress.All these factors influence conflicts between couples, which can be transferred to the sex life, generating setbacks.What's more, lack of rest makes people less sensitive to stimuli such as caresses, reducing sexual desire.

Poor diet

Diet plays a role in maintaining sexual desire with your wife or husband. If you don't eat healthy, varied and balanced meals, testosterone levels drop. Apart from this, when there are few minerals and vitamins in the meals, conditions such as fatigue or exhaustion can appear. That's why it's essential to eat a diet rich in fruit, vegetables and legumes every day.

Monotony

When a relationship begins, everything is new, so passion and emotion are still present. This also applies to sexual intimacy. But this euphoric stage fades with time and becomes routine. In a couple, monotony can lead to a lack of communication that influences sexual desire. As a result, sexual desire diminishes over time. The ideal is to vary and experiment in intimacy.

Communication problems

Effective communication within the couple is important for finding a satisfying mid-point. The presence of couple problems that are not discussed in time also interferes to reduce sexual desire, as they generate blockages on both sides. A study published in the “Journal of Sexual Medicine”, showed that fatigue, marital conflicts and work stress are major causes of lack of libido in the male population.

Remedies to make desire last

To boost your libido or simply spice up your lovemaking, try one of these three aphrodisiac recipes.

Recipe 1: Honey, cinnamon powder. Take a tablespoon of cinnamon powder and mix with a tablespoon of honey. Consume this mixture morning and evening for a rapid treatment. For occasional use, consume one (1) hour before sexual intercourse.

Recipe 2: 50 cl fresh Bissap decoction, 25 g cinnamon, 35 g fresh (grated) ginger (zingiber officinale), 2 tablespoons liquid honey. Macerate the cinnamon, ginger and honey in the Bissap decoction for 3 days. Filter the drink and shake vigorously before serving. Drink 30 minutes before intercourse.

Recipe 3: 100 g fresh pineapple flesh, a piece of fresh ginger (or a teaspoon of powdered ginger), 325 mL water, 20 g honey, lemon juice. Peel the pineapple and cut the flesh into pieces. Peel and chop ginger into small pieces. Blend the pineapple and ginger in a blender. Add the water and blend again. Strain the drink through a sieve. Add the honey and lemon juice, then blend. Chill for 2 hours before serving.

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